EXCERPT FROM KATHY PIKE’S “COACHING WITH HORSES”http://www.coachingwithhorses.com/documents/kathy-pike-making-friends-keys-to-joyful-relationships.pdf“ He receives positive reinforcement. The more I tell him what is good and what works well
in our relationship, the more positive his actions with me become. When I use negative
reinforcement or punishment, it only creates confusion, disappointment, and separation
between us. The more negative feedback he experiences, the less he wants to be with me.
Does this sound familiar? Think of one person you want to be with? Do they fill you up
with positive vibrations? Or do they criticize, judge, continually tell you how to be different,
or try to make you feel small? We naturally gravitate to positive vibrations (unless, of
course, self‐esteem is low).”
